Questions:
1.
What are the emotional losses experienced by the hurt partner following an affair?
2.
How do male and female hurt partners tend to differ in terms of feelings of inadequacy following an affair?
3.
What are the conflicting aspects of the unfaithful partner’s response to the disclosure of an affair?
4.
How do men and women differ in regards to believing an affair is justified?
5.
What are the indicators that can help the hurt partner assess whether the unfaithful partner is likely to follow through on their promise not have another affair?
6.
What are the reasons, based upon insecurities, partners may choose to stay in a relationship following an infidelity crisis?
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Answers:
A. Male hurt partners tend to feel inadequate sexually, while female hurt partners tend to feel inadequate as companions.
B. the loss of the sense of specialness, the loss of self-respect, the loss of the feeling of control, the loss of a sense of order, and the loss of a sense of purpose.
C. Women tend to believe their affair is justified when it is for love, while men tend to believe their affair is justified when it is not for love
D. Relief, impatience, absence of guilt isolation, and self-disgust.
E. The beliefs that "I can’t make it on my own", "my religion says my marriage vow cannot be broken", "the idea of separating is too
overwhelming", and "I’m responsible for taking care of my partner".
F. Underlying attitudes, a history of deception, an ability to
communicate openly, an ability to hear and empathize with pain, and a willingness to take an appropriate share of responsibility for the affair. |
